There’s free rounds of drinks in all the gay bars in Iowa tonight, you betcha. A court has just overturned the Iowa state law that bans same-sex marriage. No, really. Gay marriage has reared it’s gorgeous, legal head in Iowa, the US heartland. I’m positively elated.
I’ve been a huge fan of the Mid-West LGBTIQQA movement for years. That’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, queer, questioning, and allies. In my campus travels around the US for the past dozen years or so, it’s been mostly the red states where I’ve met and had the privilege of working with the some of the most loving, caring dedicated sex positivists and gender anarchists I’ve ever met. And I just wanted to say YAY FOR IOWA!!! Thank you for living up to my 50’s dream of an America based on fair play.
Yes, yes, yes… it’s going to go to the state supreme court. And it may indeed end up in the Bush-picked Supreme Court. But just seeing a bunch of judges in Iowa stand up and say STOP BEING SO MEAN to the mean people who passed that ban? That gives me a great deal of hope for my country.
Mind you,I am not a big fan of gay marriage. I am not a fan of
marriage, period. It’s a privileging institution based on an
increasingly rigid US class system. Marriage is steeped in a
theocratically-determined capitalist heteronormativity (say that one
three times fast!). The over-2700 additional rights granted to married
couples are supposed to be granted on behalf of the children in the family. Even the parents who throw queer kids out of the house, or do worse to
them. They get all those 2700 rights even when they do that to their
The marriage system as it stands today needs a complete
overhaul, and there are a lot of smart people writing about that. The most articulate person I know who’s writing on this subject is Mattilda, aka Matt Sycamore Bernstein. We may even be related. Bornstein, Bernstein. It all depended on who was on duty that hour on Ellis Island.
So, it’s celebration time in Iowa. I wish I could be there with them. I wish I could thank the judges in person for being decent people in the face of some pretty mean laws and morals. Here’s one Jewish, transsexual sadomasochistic dyke anarchist who’s deeply touched and grateful to the corn-fed mom-and-apple-pie folks of the US heartland who dare to wear their heart on their sleeves the same way I have to wear mine.